As we wind down the first season, on today’s episode we’re working on aligning our behaviors with our values through the power of habit. Learn how to adopt new habits and the Golden Rule of Habit Change. Conserve energy and reduce the disparity between how we want to show up and how we actually live, all factors that support emotional agility.

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Episode Highlights

• 0:46 – On the Podcast Today

• 1:30-  Being Organized

• 3:32- Power of Habits
• 5:04- H.A.L.T.
• 6:14- Habits and Our Energy
• 7:56- Small Changes = Massive Results
• 10:39- What Actions Can We Make to Move Toward Our Values?
• 12:18- How to Look at Habits
• 14:55- Looking at Our Values
• 16:14- Habit Stacking
• 17:50- Impacts of Changing Habits
• 18:16- With Change Comes Loss
• 19:11- How to Adjust a Habit
• 21:13- Changing a Bad Habit
• 23:56- What’s Next

Links Referenced

• Episode 1
• Episode 7
• “Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones,” James Clear
• “Emotional Agility,” Dr. Susan David
• Boss Yourself First Facebook Page
• Boss Yourself First Instagram

Are you struggling with all of the changes 2020 has brought? Sabine walks us through a powerful four-step process to improve our emotional agility when dealing with change. Plus, this episode is packed with practical approaches to increase self-leadership and embrace personal transformation. 

Sabine Gedeon is a Speaker, Certified Life and Leadership Coach, and Author of Transformed, The Journey to Becoming. As a Transformational Leader, she helps her clients identify and overcome their self-sabotaging behavior, take action towards the goals they really want to achieve, and unapologetically step into their leadership identity and power.
 
With a focus on personal growth, self-leadership, and professional development, Sabine aims to facilitate the transformation process for high-achieving, mission driven-leaders, so they can gain the Clarity, Courage, and Confidence needed to effectively lead themselves and others.

Sabine has spent the past decade supporting leaders and professionals in their career development within Fortune 100 companies and in her own business, and has helped hundreds of professionals breakthrough barriers, uncover or build their leadership capabilities, and experience personal and professional growth.

Sabine knows first-hand the amount of faith and courage it takes to break away from the norm and step into something new or bigger than yourself. Using her personal experiences and professional training as a benchmark, she hopes to help lead millions of others through their unique paths of purpose, impact, prosperity, and legacy.

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Episode Highlights

• 1:58 – Getting to Know Sabine
• 4:57 – Sabine’s Morning Routine
• 7:56 – What Sabine is Reading
• 8:52 – Talking about Sabine’s Book and How She Got Started
• 14:04 – Importance of Reflection
• 14:45 – Using Self-Leadership to Get Unstuck
• 17:41 – Narrative Shifting: Reframing Failure and Assumed Constraints
• 21:36 – Challenge Constraints Daily
• 24:38 – Coming from a Position of Learning
• 25:50 – A Practice and Principle of Emotional Agility
• 30:42 – Looking at Chance as an Opportunity
• 37:24 – Move with Support
• 39:00 – Connecting with Sabine

Links Referenced

• Sabine Gedeon
• “Commanding Your Morning: Unleash the Power of God in Your Life,” Cindy Trimm
• “Think and Grow Rich: or Men and Woman who Resent Poverty,” Napoleon Hill
• Ken Blanchard Books
• “Transformed: the Journey to Becoming,” Sabine Gedeon
• “Emotional Agility,” Dr. Susan David
• Boss Yourself First Facebook Page
• Boss Yourself First Instagram

Today we tap into our human superpower of holding mixed emotions. That may sound to you like more of a weakness, but we’re taking the Boss Yourself First Emotional Framework, that I use myself and with my clients, to leverage that ability into an agility superpower. Difficult emotions are plentiful – the events of 2020 alone have shown that. Anxiety, fear, and stress are not our only companions, listen, and learn how to invite your supportive emotions into the mix.

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Episode Highlights

• 1:08 – Remembering the Definition of Emotional Agility

• 2:07 – Summing Up What We’ve Talked About

• 3:41 – Emotional Framework

• 5:48 – Mixed Emotions on Going Back to School

• 8:22 – Applying the Framework

• 14:41 – Progressing Through the Framework

• 17:20 – Next Time

Links Referenced

•  “Let Me Sum Up,” Inigo Montoya 
• “Emotional Agility,” Dr. Susan David
• Boss Yourself First Facebook Page
• Boss Yourself First Instagram

On this episode, we’re talking with Brenda Abdilla about building our emotional agility when dealing with stress. Brenda shares from her new book Outsmarting Crazytown: A Business Novel About how Derailed Professionals Can Get Back On Track and opens up about how her personal journey helped develop her self-leadership skills. 

Brenda Abdilla is a respected and sought-after career and leadership coach. She works with corporate leaders who want more effective strategies for team accountability and collaboration, and with professionals who are navigating a change in their high-level careers. More than 90% of Brenda’s coaching clients get promoted, land the role they desire, or address their core issue within 12 months of engaging Brenda.

Outsmarting Crazytown: A Business Novel About How Derailed Professionals Can Get Back On Track, (Indie Books, 2020) is Brenda’s second career-centric book. Outsmarting Crazytown hit the Amazon bestseller list for new releases in career. She is also the author of: What’s Your Lane: Career Clarity for Moms Who Want to Work a Little, A lot, or Not at All (2013), and serves as the professional facilitator for two Denver-based Women Presidents’ Organization groups.

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Episode Highlights

• 2:49 – Getting to know Brenda and her Background
• 5:10 – Morning Routine
• 8:42 – Brenda’s Book
• 11:15 – the Going to the Ugly
• 14:00 – Tyranny of Positivity
• 15:24 – Alleviating Caution Fatigue
• 16:51 – Using Self-Leadership to Get Unstuck
• 20:45 – Uncovering Superpowers
• 21:45 – Guiding Principle of Emotional Agility 
• 24:42 – Practices for Living Out this Principle
• 27:05 – Changing Celebrations
• 31:36 – Finding Brenda and her Book

Links Referenced

• Brenda Abdilla
• “Outsmarting Crazytown: A Business Novel about How Derailed Professionals Can Get Back On Track, ” Brenda Abdilla 
• “60 Seconds and You’re Hired!” Robin Ryan 
• “Tribe of Mentors: Short Life Advice from the Best in the World,” Tim Ferriss
• “Emotional Agility,” Dr. Susan David
• Boss Yourself First Facebook Page
• Boss Yourself First Instagram

Today we’re exploring another approach to gaining emotional literacy – The Thinkers First Approach. It’s not that feelers don’t think or thinkers don’t feel but for some of us, it is easier to approach circumstances with detached logic first. So we’re talking about how those, who first lean toward logic, can access that emotional data. Then we’re leveraging that information, plus a couple of other data collection methods, to get clear on our top current values and to continue building emotional agility. 

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Episode Highlights

• 2:01 – Clearing Things Up
• 2:45 – Aligning Actions with Feelings
• 3:49 – Accessing Feelings through Thought and Logic
• 6:15 – RightPath Assessment
• 8:54 – Thinkers First Examples
• 13:21 – Understanding and Identifying Your Values
• 17:00 – Next Time on the Podcast

Links Referenced

• “Emotional Agility,” Dr. Susan David
• Boss Yourself First Facebook Page
• Boss Yourself First Instagram

Has 2020 challenged your emotional agility and/or made you take a hard look at diversity in your workplace? Executive Coach and Consultant Jennell Jones shares her experiences and insights on how to build your emotional agility, diversity and self-leadership. There is so much practical application in this episode, you won’t want to miss out! 

Jennell Jones is an Executive Coach and Consultant who empowers progressive women and minority executives to take control of their development and accelerate their careers.
She challenges executives get the results they are seeking by shifting mindsets and transforming behaviors. She works with her clients to identify and break through challenges they experience with executive presence, stakeholder management, leadership style and communications.

Jennell also facilitates team effectiveness sessions, mastermind sessions and group coaching. 

She spent over 20 years leading talent acquisition organizations in a variety of different industries. She also spent 10 years with Pfizer, most of which in was Talent and Organizational Capability, where she provided leadership over talent management, executive development and high potential strategy.  

Jennell graduated from the University of Connecticut with a degree in Psychology. She is a professionally certified executive coach and she holds certifications in multiple assessments and frameworks. She lives in Jersey City, New Jersey.

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Episode Highlights

• 1:36 – Getting to Know Jennell
• 4:19 – Jennell on Emotional Agility
• 9:18 – Seeing Challenges as a Conduit to Success
• 10:39 – Seeing Nervousness as Excitement
• 11:52 – Creating Diversity in the Workplace
• 14:52 – Sponsorship vs. Mentorship
• 18:52 – What Else We Should Pay Attention to Right Now
• 21:36 – Strategies to Getting Unstuck
• 27:50 – Getting in Contact with Jennell 

Links Referenced

• “Emotional Agility,” Dr. Susan David
• Boss Yourself First Facebook Page
• Boss Yourself First Instagram
• Jennell Jones
•  “Forget a Mentor, Find a Sponsor: The New Way to Fast-Track Your Career,” Sylvia Ann Hewlett

On this week’s episode, we dig deep to discover the messages emotions deliver.  Yes, emotions enrich our lives, painting the human experience with both joy and sadness, but emotions also provide feedback on our values and what is important to us. Understanding the messages emotions deliver is the next step to leveraging that data to choose thoughts and actions that keep us moving forward toward our goals and focusing our energy in ways that align with our values. 

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Episode Highlights

• 2:23 – Messages of Emotions
• 3:14 – What Emotions Tell Us
• 6:00 – Unpacking Joy
• 7:52 – Unpacking Shame
• 10:50 – Leaning into Curiosity
• 13:03 – Caution Fatigue 

Links Referenced

• “Emotional Agility,” Dr. Susan David
• Boss Yourself First Facebook Page
• Boss Yourself First Instagram
• Brené Brown

How do you like to show up in a heated moment? Explosively out-of-control or clear-thinking and decisive? In this episode, we add another layer to our emotional literacy with the language we use and the labels we create. With this understanding, we can calm our triggered brains to create space between stimulus and response –  to choose our actions and show up in a way that aligns with our values. 

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Episode Highlights

• 2:04 – Appetizer: Emotional Triage
• 4:16 – Literacy, Language, & Labels
• 5:14 – The Value of Knowing Our Emotions
• 7:35 – The Science Behind Emotions
• 9:29 – Exercise Self-Compassion
• 10:17 – Next Time

Links Referenced

• “Emotional Agility,” Dr. Susan David
• Boss Yourself First Facebook Page
• Boss Yourself First Instagram

This episode begins the real work of creating emotional awareness and understanding. Learn how to expand your emotional vocabulary and comprehension to speak the language of emotions with greater fluency.

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Episode Highlights

• 2:28 – Developing Our Core
• 3:41 – Emotional Vocabulary & Emotional Granularity
• 4:21 – Defining Emotional Literacy 
• 7:12 – Obstacles to Emotional Literacy
• 7:59 – How to Overcome Obstacles
• 10:28 – Turning on Curiosity & Compassion
• 12:37 – Practicing Emotional Literacy
• 15:36 – Applying Emotional Agility
• 17:35 – Homework (Find in Resources)

Links Referenced

• “Emotional Agility,” Dr. Susan David
• Boss Yourself First Facebook Page
• “The Holiday Armadillo,” Friends
• “The Emotions Thesaurus,” Angela Ackerman
• Boss Yourself First Instagram

This episode continues our preparation for Emotional Agility. We cover the last two principles needed to get down to the business of building emotional nimbleness, flexibility, and balance that are foundations of self-leadership.

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Episode Highlights

• 2:07 – Emotional Agility Recap
• 3:28 – The Second Principle
• 4:18 – Phineas Gage
• 7:06 – Emotions Help Make Decisions
• 8:04 – The Third Principle
• 10:04 – Being Hooked by Our Emotions

Links Referenced

• “Descartes’ Error,” Antonio Damasio
• Case of Phineas Gage
• “Emotional Agility,” Dr. Susan David
• Boss Yourself First Facebook Page
• “Outsmart Your Brain,” Marcia Reynolds
• Boss Yourself First Instagram